Thank you M2M! I hope I get the support I need!
Dear FF Diary,
I went to my dietician yesterday with the intention of firing her. I get a free session with my
gym membership that I never took up, and after reading so much on this site and others, I felt maybe I wasn't getting the most from her.
She seemed to compliment me on every choice I make and my progress, and for having started with her at the end of January, there is NOT much progress. And each session is so expensive... I think if it wasn't as expensive, I might not mind as much.
So, I went in and I talked to her, and I asked why she didn't give me a set of
calories to count -- this website is all about calorie counting -- and she told me she didn't believe in calorie counting because it makes people too stressed out. I asked her why I wasn't losing weight, if theoretically I am in caloric deficit -- and she also didn't have an answer except to say I am not tracking everything I put in my mouth ( I am. Even those miniture sized chocolates by the receptionist's desk).
She seems surprised at my commitment to the exercise, and while she tried to help me find a way to bring more vegetables into my
diet, I've lost a lot of confidence in her.
BUT -- while I was there, I didn't say anything to her. I just kept asking questions, and at the end, her methodology is to take baby steps with her clients because she wants them to change for life, rather than just a period in time.
Okay, I have a hard time breaking up with people. I couldn't do it. I guess what I'll do now is try out the
gym's dietician and if I get a better sense, then I will move on to that and tell her then.
The real problem is this:
I just don't know what makes a good dietician!
I think I need one. Maybe I don't, at the end of the day, but what I was looking for was someone knowledgeable in food and
nutrition and psychology. I need it!
Food-wise, I just have a really hard time completely eliminating one food or group of foods. When I saw that
pilates/spinning teacher Nicole, her words resonated in me -- for about three seconds. And then, I realized, wow, can I live like that?
The reason I am not macrobiotic like my family is because they've also completely eliminated food groups from their meals. And as my dietician said (I know, I know!) any
diet that asks you to eliminate food from your
diet is going to make you lose weight -- because you are eliminated
calories.
Dairy, Sugars, and Wheat are probably where 75% of our
calories come from. And honestly, if I did take those out, I might as well be macrobiotic too.
Bleh.
I don't know why this is so hard.
My boyfriend is also surprised at my lack of
weight loss as he sees me eat all the time, and he knows I am not eating Big Macs for breakfast, lunch, and dinner -- not
even once a week! Or once a month! He sees that I am eating relatively healthy -- clearly not someone who is restricting her food intake, but I choose the
Diet Coke! I eat salads! I eat snacks so I am not ravenous at lunch or dinner! I exercise!
The last thing my dietician said is that I am probably not counting all the
calories in my food, because the math shold be simple:
calories eaten -
calories spent =
weight loss
But it doesn't seem that simple. Am I making it harder than it really is?????!!?!?!?!?!?!?!
