“ I am married to a great man but he does not understand what it is like to be over weight “

It might not be that he does not understand it might be that he just does not know how to talk to you about your weight gain. Many guys have a real fear of upsetting their partners feelings, so rather than saying something, they say nothing.

To some men weight is not an issue “they love you just the way you are“.

It might mean you have to sit down with him and explain exactly how being over-weight makes you feel and offer him some benefits “ wouldn’t you like to see me in a tighter skirt, Would'nt you like to see me a few lbs lighter” etc. .

I think that once he feels that your cool about talking about it he will open up as well.

However remind him that you need positive encouragement on a regular basis and not criticism especially when you get days that you just don’t stick to your plan. Once you get him on board I am sure you'll get lots of support

Hope that helps from a male perspective.