Morning,
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Originally Posted by catiew21  sorry - just had to bitch some more...
i am worried about myself (as lame as this sounds)... i am the one who is caring too much and he is not... not a good thing... how do you not care? i, unfortunately, have had these feelings since we broke up.. for the last 4 years... yeah.. not a good thing but totally my own stupid fault.
for about a year i made the decision not to talk to him, answer his calls, see him, etc.. then i gave in. i am so regretting it.  |
I can really understand your feelings. How do you NOT care? Short answer: by internalizing how truly super a person you are...and how you shouldn't waste yourself on someone who lacks the ability to appreciate you.
And how do you come to peace with what happened?
One thing that I've learned over my vast eons of experience is:
Everything...happens for a reason. You might not know why at that very moment, or the next week, or the next year, or the next decade....but...we always learn something from every agonizingly bad choice we make.
In this case, I think you've learned how your emotions work and play with your mind....which will be helpful in the future when such a situation arises again. You've learned that a short-term gratification can lead to long-term regrets.
Life is for living...and sometimes, we yield when we shouldn't. But if you didn't indulge, you might always ask yourself in the future, what did I miss?
But you didn't miss it...you went for it, and you are now armed with that knowledge for the future. No what-ifs...
you know.
Honor your feelings and then let them go. Take whatever learning you can ... and add that to your own inner strength for the future. It might help you more than you know.
Best wishes,
Barbara
