I agree--I am afraid to lose the weight. When I was in my early 20s I lost a ton of weight, and I was in the best shape of my life. I was also depressed and miserable. I kept having risky, unprotected sex with anyone who wanted to, whether I wanted to or not, and was abusing alcohol and other drugs. I gained the weight back, and have been less anxious and happier. Now I am married, older, and more secure. I wonder if I would be able to lose again without losing my joy of life, and without feeling in constant danger from men looking at me. I am very afraid.