Depending on the day your boyfriend may not have meant it badly. Mine said things like that and I would cry about it and say "I am gonna show him", but I wouldn't cause I liked to eat.
He said it though because he saw me trying on clothes in shops and crying, he saw me pinch my own fat disgustedly, he saw me suffering because I couldn't wear the same bikinis some of my friends wore, and he saw me not undressing for sex, because I couldn't have him look at my fat.
He loved me too much to see me going down that slippery slope of weight gain frustration weight gain, so he told me he thought I should lose the weight and be happier with myself.
Of course I took it badly and cried and made a big deal out of it, but now that i am almost halfway there I can see why he said these things!
He took me in his arms just the day before yesterday and told me how incredibly proud he is of me, for making myself happier, for being strong enough to do this, to eat well, to exercise regularly, and to lose the weight. He didn't say "You are mroe beautiful", he said "you are stronger" and that is exactly what I needed to hear (he thinks I am beautiful no matter what).

And my mom told me I should lose weight for the first time when I was 14 and 120 pounds! She is tiny and she could not fathom that I wasn't tiny too. When I got very sick and started to throw up daily I was almost happy because I thought I woud lose the weight and my mom would have the daughter she desired. I never got tiny, but my sister grew up to be tiny, so she now has a tiny daughter (who is a pain in the bottom a lot of times) and a bigger one (who studied and did well, etc...) and she has stopped telling me about my weight.
It only took her the odd 6 years to understand! Mom's are just plain difficult a lot of times. Mine did apologize though when my tests came back positive for coeliac disease and hypothyroidism, and she felt guilty for torturing me when actually had a disease!
Camy

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