Weight Loss Forum

Ah, I've got to kind of disagree with almost everyone here. When I "sign up" to be in a relationship with someone, I "sign up" for that person at their current weight, not 20lbs or 100lbs heavier. Sometimes, in relationships I feel like partners need to draw the line when it comes to weight (or more accurately, gross negligence when it comes to their own body).

I broke up with someone once because she basically refused to work out with me to help her weight problem and she was probably only overweight by 30lbs. As humans, we are free to choose what we find attractive and have no obligation to stay with someone that has become unattractive over time because of their out of control eating or lack of exercise- actions they can control. When I become not physically attracted to my girlfriend, then she is just my friend, not a sexual partner.

Boyfriends are supposed to be attracted to you, and if you decide to take part in practices that make you unattractive (no matter how high his standards are), I say thats grounds for breaking up. It works the other way around as well- not just talking about boyfriends.

I know I have some weird views about this, but let me say, if I had a girlfriend that demanded I lose weight, I would lose the weight if I wanted to stay in a relationship. If you can't meet your boyfriend/girlfriend's expectations of how you should look, then you aren't a good match for each other.

Let me say this as well- I would never date someone that I thought was unattractive because they were overweight, no matter how much I liked their personality. Appearance and personality are two parts of the package and both matter. One doesn't trump the other. P.S. I'm not talking about marriage or anything here, just dating.

Ok, I probably just made some enemies here. Please, no one take this personally, my views don't represent all men's views. I also don't think it makes me a bad or shallow person to have this perspective.