Tink I have to say I just read your posts and had to take the time to say something Sorry I was not around these days. I want to say you did the right thing by not talking to her anymore. I can understand that you feel sorry for her. People like her normally play on people's sympathy and general politeness to generate false friendships in their minds. I think she really does have some deep seated social and possibly mental issues and has maybe suffered a greatly distressing social situation in the past. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to help her. She needs help that you cannot offer to her, and help she will probably never get because she cannot see the wrong in her, but in everyone else. I do not know her boundaries, meaning I do not know how far she will go, but I do know she is a master at manipulation, so in these times stand firm by your decisions and do not let her see fear or sympathy as these are the things she mostly uses to manipulate people. I am not saying that you be mean to her by any means, just handle her with tact. I have encountered some similar people in my life, not as extreme as this one, but still doing a lot of the same things. You are doing the right thing tink do not worry. If you have not done so already, just make sure you communicate to all of your friends that you are not her friend anymore and really stress to them that you did not give her their numbers, she must have taken them from your phone somehow. She reminds me of that movie, Single White Female.

Do take care Tink let your mom know there is nothing to worry about. Oh and about her talking to your husband, I do not blame you for feeling uncomfortable with that. I understand that you trust him, it is just her that you do not trust. Nothing is wrong with that, I think it is a good instinct that you have...and how can I explain this....that sort of relationship between husband and wife is something that we tend to want to shield. So your husband is trustworthy, but she is just unstable NO DOUBT! I think your husband is right though. She wants what you lot have and wants to be in it or have something like it, the same as the relationship with your family and your friends...as you can see she is trying to invade everything!

Again, you are doing the right thing in taking her out of your life and the lives of your loved ones

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