Trust me, you're not ugly. And even if you were, who cares? I say that if you drop some weight and get more fit you'll start to realize how great you can look and the swanky clothes you'll be able to fit in to.

Remember... getting fit isn't an IF. You ARE going to do it.

We all have flaws, things about our bodies or faces that we don't like. And, they are amplified in our own perception, much more noticeable to us than they are to others.

You have beautiful eyes, and your nose and jawline look perfectly fine. I don't see these flaws that, to you, are pronounced. No doubt if you have some lasting damage from an earlier injury to your jaw, you should have that repaired since it causes you pain, and there may be some misalignment or scarring that just isn't evident in the photos. But I have to agree with the other posters and say that you really look quite lovely. From your post, and your feeling that others see you as ugly, I'm guessing that you have some body image issues and self-esteem issues that may skew the way you see yourself. I'm not a psychologist, but that is just the way it seems. Along with pursuing weight loss, you may want to get some counseling, to help you develop a more positive self-image.

Good luck!

I'm genuinely confused as to how anyone could have said you're ugly, you're just not, in fact you're rather pretty

You remind me of renee zellweger.

Good luck on the weight loss, this place is a bountiful resource of knowledge and help so i'm sure you'l find all you need.

Please don't go ahead with any surgery, you don't need it at all.

You are beautiful! please, please, read and take in what everyone has said. I know being a girl = rough, and people are mean - but whatever has made you feel this way about yourself you need to put it aside. You truly are pretty ... Good luck with your weight loss. Get positive and know you can do it we are all here to help you!

WOW.

I litterally cried when I read yall's responses. You all are very very very kind, good people. Thank you. Ive never 'met' such nice people.

I couldn't even finish high school at a public school. I ended up having to homeschool myself for the last year. People would throw stuff at me, yell things to me in the hallways, harass me constantly. It was a nightmare. I couldnt even eat in the cafeteria. I was treated like some sort of monster with a contagious disease.

I know, it's stupid to have let any of that get to me. But it did. And even now, a year later, out in the real world, people stare at me and I have a feeling about what they're thinking. I keep wondering when being an adult will kick in and I wont care so much about the way that I look. 18 years old and I'm still unbelievably self conscious.

Maybe, just maybe, losing all of the weight will help.


Once again, thank you all for the kind words. Today, for the first time in a long time, I can truly say that I feel like I have hope.

I'll be sure to post progress pictures.

Love you all.

from Canada
My heart is broken for you and the pain you have suffered from other people. No matter how many of us tell you the truth (that you look absolutely lovely and do not appear to need any surgery!), I fear that the horrific wounds you suffered at such a tender age are continuing to wound you.

*I URGE you to seek appropriate counsel for what happened to you, so that you can grow into a healthy young woman in every respect!*

As for your weight; we are nearly the same height and I started my WL journey at 211 pounds. You certainly wear yours well; I would not have guessed your number. Come here often for encouragement and advice, and to update us on your progress (physically and emotionally!). You truly are a beautiful girl.

Wishing you success on your journey,

Janice

That sounds terrible, i can't imagine how that would feel.
Rest assured though that if people are mean they will be so anyway and will often create reasons to if there isn't one and as far as i'm concerned a statemnt that you are 'ugly' is completley fabricated.

If only you were in my neck of the woods

In all honesty, I think you look positively fine. When you lose the weight, you'll see your face slim down and change, you very well might just love the new you and realize that in the great scheme of things, it wont matter. You are NOT ugly and people who said you were, need to look in the mirror and understand that it's they who are ugly, for even beginning to call someone else that!

Trust me, I used to have a lot of the same issues, I weigh more then you tho, I'm 17, but I've seen my face change in different ways through out my life and now that I'm really going to take a hold of my weight, I try not to pass judgement on myself until I'm at the weight I want.

If you ever need someone to talk to or anything of the sort, send a PM my way =)

Its just shocking how cruel kids can be when they decide to pick on a person. I mean until I read your post about these mean kids in school, I was thinking you could be one of those fake posters that just likes to get people riled up. I thought how can such a gorgeous girl believe she's hideous, that's impossible!

OK, so the cat's out of the bag mami, you're hot and that's a fact! Now you need your confidence to catch up to the reality. These kids made up a fiction that you were not worthy and you were ugly. That was a made up lie and they all had their fun playing along. High school seems to have this cliquey hierarchial nonsense going on that has no basis in reality. Luckily you're finished with that and no one in your future needs to see that girl they tried to create. Its time to get back to your essence, the girl you were before you were abused to such an extent. Please try to find that girl.

If you want our continued help or friendship, start yourself a diary about your weight loss and other things. Take care luv .

uhhh wow.. Seriously you are gorgeous! I recommend that if you want to lose weight that is up to you, but WAIT to get anything done to the face until after you lose the weight. I bet that will give you the look you desire... Not that you would need to be fixed up by a surgeon anyway.. That's crazy talk You look great just the way you are.

But really... You are really beautiful, and if you lived near me I would totally ask you out So yah. You would have this handsome fellow on your arm

You are a knockout! Whoever is telling you that you're ugly is really thinking you look a lot better than they do and they're telling you this to make themselves seem better. Sound odd? People do that! You have gorgeous eyes, pouty full lips, a cute slender nose, your face shape is fantastic, and your hair is thick and healthy. What part of your face do you see that's ugly? You really need to see yourself through your eyes and not other's eyes. At the end of the day, these people will not be with you. You will ALWAYS be with you, so you better figure out who you're going to listen to.

I don't go for blondes, having said that, there is nothing wrong with you, you look to me like most other girls and most girls are not ugly, in fact they're far from it. Women in general seem to lack more confidence then men do for some reason.

I can't see anything wrong with your jaw, your nose, your face or anything else. Highschool can be a pretty traumatic time for many people. At 18 you're so very young and vulnerable and in my own experience (i'm 25 now) your self esteem will grow as you gain more life experience. Even though i'm a little out of shape myself i think women find me irresistible.

LOL! Now THAT is the right attitude!

You're really really beautiful you've got amazing hair, and pretty eyes.
You honestly don't need any plastic surgery, and you do carry your weight well, you look far lighter than you are.
I hope you realise how pretty you are

If someone done beat you up with the "ugly stick" please tell me who they are, cause I wouldn't mind a whack or two of that kind of ugly myself!

If you are ugly I had best just crawl back under my rock because I must be hideous!!!

And really, in the long run, people who tell you you are ugly are one of 2 things:

JEALOUS or ENVIOUS!
or
Just plain $*%#heads who's opinion doesnt matter anyway!

I know no one here will call you ugly, because yer not.

sirant