[nataliejo]

Originally Posted by tinkerbella

Lol think its quite common for people to want to get as much as they can for their money I have always avoided these places purely because i cant say no if food i love is laid out in front of me! Well done Hope for having such willpower!!

Ok...was wondering what you guys thought of this littl esituation i have with my friend. Its beginning to freak me out and im not quite sure if im over-reacting or not.

I know her from my set of friends from uni. She is one of my closest friends and was my maid of honour at my wedding. She went through a horrible time and lost her boyfriend and then sorta lost all hger friends. Each time it happened she told me the situation and how she was blameless and they were bitches, etc. I believed her at the time but now im not so sure. Anyway, I started inviting her out with other groups of friends and especially when i went out with my sister in law. I just didnt want her sitting around moping and she had no other friends to go out with. She has now taken things al little too far and she is hounding my si in law and my friends with phonecalls, texts, emails, etc. She even org her birthday night out so that my whole family was there....it freaked me out!! She has also called up my friends to arrange nights out which have freaked them out so much that they got onto ME. (I think she took their numbers from my phone cos they swear that they didnt give them to her)

This was bothering me but i was willing to put it down to her being lonely. However, she has now crossed a line cos she has started phoning my husband and waiting outside his workplace. She said she just needs some male advice abt stuff but it is serverly pissing me off...i totally trust mu hubby but i hate that she is trying to get in on EVERY bit of my life. My friends, my family and now my husband! Am i over reacting and being childish abt this or am i right to think that she has gone too far?

The last thing i want is to leave her friendless but at the moment i cant bear to see her or be near her....help!

Tink,
I totally agree with Hope! Dump her friendship. She has gone WAY WAY WAY too far. She sounds kind of mentally disabled, or borderline. I am borderline and those just sound like those kind of traits. Mine is undercontrol, but that sounds like a very severe case. Manipulative, ect. You need to say goodbye to her. She never should have gone into your phone, she shouldnt be going to your husband and she shouldnt be bothering your friends. You need to stand up to her and tell her, her action were and are inappropriate!!

Good luck hun
I am sending good vibes your way

hugs
love yas
always
natalie jo

[nataliejo]

Originally Posted by Kevi12

I'm actually not going to a big university lol. I'm just gonna attend the nearby community college and get my Associate degree. Parents will pay for everything, so theres nothing to lose lol.

What are you getting as an associates degree?

Good on you for your parents paying lmao ...

ttylater
love yas
natalie jo

[Kevi12]

Nursing I want to make lots of money

[veronandez86]

Hey Everyone!
Hope your day's going good.

Tink,
Yeah, I'd dump her as being a friend. There are certain lines you don't cross and one of the major ones in my book is how close she is trying to get with your husband. I agree with everything everyone has told you about this situation. Dang, you got some restraint. I'm suprised you didn't kick that wench's behind the minute you found out that she was waiting for your husband outside of his jobsite; or that you didn't 'accidently' hit her with your car. Heck I know I would have.

Natalie,
I'm glad you got Derek to be with now. =) Hope it all works out. Oh, and try new things... a different activity each date or even a slight difference in the way you touch him.

Hope,
I'm glad that you found love again. That's awesome. Glad to hear you are happy! LoL... I laughed my behind off with what you wrote about fitting together like a glove and not the OJ kind. (hmmm... I think this smiley looks like he's wearing a glove)

Kevi,
All I gotta say is dont knock em back so quick. U R only 16... you got tons of time left to party it up. Especially when you are in college.

Ooo, I was just reminded by this education talk that I got to go sign up for classes. I really need to go talk to an advisor or someone so I know what classes I wanna take. I eventually wanna go to law school and I think that I'm leaning towards Political Science rather than Crim. Justice, but I gotta think about that more.

*~*~*~*

Okay, as for me and Sean. I spent the whole day/night/day with him this weekend. Dang, I really really like him. However, we aren't official yet. I mean, when he talks about me, he says he's with his girl... but does that mean girlfriend? or you know... his buddie. LoL. He does call me Baby, so I'm assuming when he says his girl, he doesn't mean his buddy. Eh, sometimes I wish things were just black and white... too many shades of gray lead to misunderstandings... Or maybe I'm just over-analizing / thinking about it too much... right? Knowing myself, I'm over-analizing, and I defently know that by this, I'm deciphering what my true feelings for him are. And truely, I really like him, can see us getting super serious, see myself falling in love and being together for a long time.

I think I just want him to just say upfront to me that I'm his girlfriend. But then again... the way guys think, maybe he just assumes that I already know.

Have a great day everyone.
Veronica

[tamwalt]

Have any of you had a day like this?

Small piece of boston creme cake.
Small piece of ice cream cake.
1/2 medium piece of chocolate cake with walnuts.
Small sliver of watermelon ice cream roll.
---------------------- One sitting!

2 pieces of honey oat bread melts with ham, 2 slices turkey, 3 slices salami and 3 slices of cheddar, plus 2 pieces of bacon.
---------------------- Plus 1 piece turkey, 3 pieces buffalo chicken, 1 piece of salami while making the melts.

1 medium piece of chocolate cake.
1 small piece of boston creme cake.
---------------------- *SIGHS*...

NO EXERCISE, OR YESTERDAY...
NO WORK...
9 glasses of WATER.


I really feel like crap about it! I feel like I have no will power whatsoever! And theres still cake in the fridge!!! maybe I should freeze some of it?

[Kevi12]

I guess, i'm not going to school this summer haha. I changed my mind in like the last second I was with the counselor. Also guys, to all the Journey Lovers, the new album is out with the new lead singed "Arnel Pineda' Pinoy pride! LOL!

[tinkerbella]

Thanx girls i did know that her behaviour was annoying and a bit strange but i hadnt thought of her as potentially dangerous...oh dear...

Spoke to my hubby abt it and he reckons that she is jealous of our life together and wants a part of it (or one like it) for herself. Im not sure if this is true or not, but regardless she has def overstepped the mark and i will have to talk to her and tell her to back right off. I might not hit her with the car tho Veronica! Maybe a bit extreme lol!!

Thanx for the advice and support

Tamwalt - dont worry abt it! We have all been there and you will mve on to the next day and be fine. One bad day doesnt undo all your good work!

Veronica - If he is calling you baby then he sure as hell doesnt think of you as just a friend! He is also calling you his girl! Maybe you should just ask him if you guys are official?? Sounds like things are really going well with you guys!

Hope - OMG how the hell did the scary stalker get into your email?? Wow, thankfully my firend hasnt gone that far but she was checking my bebo page to see who i was meeting at the wekend! Im so glad that you are so happy! Your so lucky to have found such an amazing relationship and you totally deserve it enjoy every min of it!!

Nat - Wow, you and Derek sound sooooo happy! You sound much more positive and relaxed!! Thanx for the advice abt my friend, she is bi-polar but usually the meds keep it under control...not sure if it is this that is causing her to act like this but it is prob worth mentioning it to her.

Bye!

[spartacus26]

Originally Posted by tamwalt

Have any of you had a day like this?

Small piece of boston creme cake.
Small piece of ice cream cake.
1/2 medium piece of chocolate cake with walnuts.
Small sliver of watermelon ice cream roll.
---------------------- One sitting!

2 pieces of honey oat bread melts with ham, 2 slices turkey, 3 slices salami and 3 slices of cheddar, plus 2 pieces of bacon.
---------------------- Plus 1 piece turkey, 3 pieces buffalo chicken, 1 piece of salami while making the melts.

1 medium piece of chocolate cake.
1 small piece of boston creme cake.
---------------------- *SIGHS*...

NO EXERCISE, OR YESTERDAY...
NO WORK...
9 glasses of WATER.


I really feel like crap about it! I feel like I have no will power whatsoever! And theres still cake in the fridge!!! maybe I should freeze some of it?

Yes, I have. Just don't make it into two days...or (in my case) two weeks!!! It's so easy to get off track and so hard to get back on sometimes!! It's my vacation week (I'm a teacher so I get the whole summer off but I've got other somethings in the fire...or pans on the stove...I'm doing other work stuff! Just not until next week) so I'm trying to still work out and eat well, but I'm not really doing a good job yet. It's only Tuesday, so I'm gonna keep on trucking!!

You too, tamwalt! :-)
Knowing you you'll post tomorrow with an 18 pound weight loss, so there's probably no need to worry anyway. ;-)

[tinkerbella]

So had the talk with the friend and get this...she does not accept that ANY of her behaviour is wrong, she thinks that i am an insecure control freak who doesnt want anyone to be friends without me, and finally.......that 'i have no say in her relationship with my husband'!!!!! WTF???? the girl is seriously deluded and has completely freaked me out...wanted to slap her but thankfully kept it to myself.

So obviously i decided that was the end of that friendship and told her this. I have just got off the phone to the SEVENTH friend who has called me to tell me that she has been phoning MY friends and bad mouthing me and asking THEM to support HER. She even called my MUM to tell her that i had been mean to her!!!! OMFG!!!

Evidently she is completely wacko and now my mum is really worried and i cant get any work done for worrying abt it all. She must know that she cant act like this....and now she hasno friends left and i feel really bad for her but i cant have such a horrible person in m (and my friends and familys) life.

Oh dear...........

[steadfast_minx]

hey all, I started at 220, and I bounce back between 200-220 all the time. I am worried that my weight loss this time will be just like every other time. I guess we shall see!!!!!

[veronandez86]

Originally Posted by steadfast_minx

hey all, I started at 220, and I bounce back between 200-220 all the time. I am worried that my weight loss this time will be just like every other time. I guess we shall see!!!!!

Hey,
Welcome. Hopefully this time works out better for you and your weight quits jumping back and fourth. Anyway, welcome to WLF and to our little club. Hope to see you again soon.

Veronica

[veronandez86]

Originally Posted by tinkerbella

So had the talk with the friend and get this...she does not accept that ANY of her behaviour is wrong, she thinks that i am an insecure control freak who doesnt want anyone to be friends without me, and finally.......that 'i have no say in her relationship with my husband'!!!!! WTF???? the girl is seriously deluded and has completely freaked me out...wanted to slap her but thankfully kept it to myself.

So obviously i decided that was the end of that friendship and told her this. I have just got off the phone to the SEVENTH friend who has called me to tell me that she has been phoning MY friends and bad mouthing me and asking THEM to support HER. She even called my MUM to tell her that i had been mean to her!!!! OMFG!!!

Evidently she is completely wacko and now my mum is really worried and i cant get any work done for worrying abt it all. She must know that she cant act like this....and now she hasno friends left and i feel really bad for her but i cant have such a horrible person in m (and my friends and familys) life.

Oh dear...........

Woah! That chick is TOTALLY CRAZY!
WTF... she's ----ing herself if she even THINKS you have no right to interfere with her relationship with your husband! Hmm... Obsessive much? Oh yeah, and why would she think that you're friends would take her side? She met them like the other week. OMG she is such a nutcase!

LoL... What did telling your mom accomplish? Maybe she thought your Momma would give you a spanking and say, "Now tink, this sweet (demented) girl is lonely, so you better be nice to her. She needs a friend. If not, you're going to be grounded little Missy and sent to your room without supper." I mean, dang this isn't a Full House episode.

Hmm... I think Enterprise Car Rental is having a special this weekend.
*nudge nudge* *wink wink* Varrooommmm.... Hmm... is that Psycho in the road? Lets shift into a higher gear and see...

[pink clouds]

Tink I have to say I just read your posts and had to take the time to say something Sorry I was not around these days. I want to say you did the right thing by not talking to her anymore. I can understand that you feel sorry for her. People like her normally play on people's sympathy and general politeness to generate false friendships in their minds. I think she really does have some deep seated social and possibly mental issues and has maybe suffered a greatly distressing social situation in the past. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to help her. She needs help that you cannot offer to her, and help she will probably never get because she cannot see the wrong in her, but in everyone else. I do not know her boundaries, meaning I do not know how far she will go, but I do know she is a master at manipulation, so in these times stand firm by your decisions and do not let her see fear or sympathy as these are the things she mostly uses to manipulate people. I am not saying that you be mean to her by any means, just handle her with tact. I have encountered some similar people in my life, not as extreme as this one, but still doing a lot of the same things. You are doing the right thing tink do not worry. If you have not done so already, just make sure you communicate to all of your friends that you are not her friend anymore and really stress to them that you did not give her their numbers, she must have taken them from your phone somehow. She reminds me of that movie, Single White Female.

Do take care Tink let your mom know there is nothing to worry about. Oh and about her talking to your husband, I do not blame you for feeling uncomfortable with that. I understand that you trust him, it is just her that you do not trust. Nothing is wrong with that, I think it is a good instinct that you have...and how can I explain this....that sort of relationship between husband and wife is something that we tend to want to shield. So your husband is trustworthy, but she is just unstable NO DOUBT! I think your husband is right though. She wants what you lot have and wants to be in it or have something like it, the same as the relationship with your family and your friends...as you can see she is trying to invade everything!

Again, you are doing the right thing in taking her out of your life and the lives of your loved ones

[pink clouds]

Originally Posted by steadfast_minx

hey all, I started at 220, and I bounce back between 200-220 all the time. I am worried that my weight loss this time will be just like every other time. I guess we shall see!!!!!

Cuuuute name Welcome aboard steadfast_minx, so glad to have you.

Don't worry, have confidence in yourself this time, it is what will make the difference. It is your body, your will, your determination. You can do it! We are all here for you. One sure fire way to stay on track is to never give up. If you make one mistake, do not be hard on yourself and let it pass. Even two, three, or four mistakes. It is a journey and you will make it this time. I believe in you

Hugs to everyone. I am off to bed

[Kevi12]

Pink I really don't know what I would do in that situation since i'm what? 10 years younger than you are? lol, but it's good that you kept some things to yourself. If it were me, I would've hit someone already lol.

Steadfast_minx Welcome!, idk if your a guy/woman/girl, but i'm there with you lol. My current weight right now is probably around 208. I never get off 200 lbs, but I promised to myself to do something about it. I started seeing myself running, but not even for 15 minutes which makes me laugh. I also mix my cardio with some basketball, so yeah don't worry. Everyone is together on this one!