New Year, New Thread for Those who Weigh 200 lbs/90 Kg or More

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Tink I have to say I just read your posts and had to take the time to say something Sorry I was not around these days. I want to say you did the right thing by not talking to her anymore. I can understand that you feel sorry for her. People like her normally play on people's sympathy and general politeness to generate false friendships in their minds. I think she really does have some deep seated social and possibly mental issues and has maybe suffered a greatly distressing social situation in the past. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to help her. She needs help that you cannot offer to her, and help she will probably never get because she cannot see the wrong in her, but in everyone else. I do not know her boundaries, meaning I do not know how far she will go, but I do know she is a master at manipulation, so in these times stand firm by your decisions and do not let her see fear or sympathy as these are the things she mostly uses to manipulate people. I am not saying that you be mean to her by any means, just handle her with tact. I have encountered some similar people in my life, not as extreme as this one, but still doing a lot of the same things. You are doing the right thing tink do not worry. If you have not done so already, just make sure you communicate to all of your friends that you are not her friend anymore and really stress to them that you did not give her their numbers, she must have taken them from your phone somehow. She reminds me of that movie, Single White Female.

Do take care Tink let your mom know there is nothing to worry about. Oh and about her talking to your husband, I do not blame you for feeling uncomfortable with that. I understand that you trust him, it is just her that you do not trust. Nothing is wrong with that, I think it is a good instinct that you have...and how can I explain this....that sort of relationship between husband and wife is something that we tend to want to shield. So your husband is trustworthy, but she is just unstable NO DOUBT! I think your husband is right though. She wants what you lot have and wants to be in it or have something like it, the same as the relationship with your family and your friends...as you can see she is trying to invade everything!

Again, you are doing the right thing in taking her out of your life and the lives of your loved ones

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Originally Posted by steadfast_minx

hey all, I started at 220, and I bounce back between 200-220 all the time. I am worried that my weight loss this time will be just like every other time. I guess we shall see!!!!!

Cuuuute name Welcome aboard steadfast_minx, so glad to have you.

Don't worry, have confidence in yourself this time, it is what will make the difference. It is your body, your will, your determination. You can do it! We are all here for you. One sure fire way to stay on track is to never give up. If you make one mistake, do not be hard on yourself and let it pass. Even two, three, or four mistakes. It is a journey and you will make it this time. I believe in you

Hugs to everyone. I am off to bed

[Kevi12]

Pink I really don't know what I would do in that situation since i'm what? 10 years younger than you are? lol, but it's good that you kept some things to yourself. If it were me, I would've hit someone already lol.

Steadfast_minx Welcome!, idk if your a guy/woman/girl, but i'm there with you lol. My current weight right now is probably around 208. I never get off 200 lbs, but I promised to myself to do something about it. I started seeing myself running, but not even for 15 minutes which makes me laugh. I also mix my cardio with some basketball, so yeah don't worry. Everyone is together on this one!

[tinkerbella]

OMFG!!! That girl is seriously freaking me right out. She sent me flowers TO MY WORK and then left 38 messages on my mobile.....she keeps saying she is sorry and that i am her only true friend, blah, blah, blah...I am beginning to think that i shouldwarn my family and friends to watch out for her.

Thanx for all the advice abt this - it is stressing me out and my friends are all to angry with her to give objective advice. My mum is seriously worried abt it all and when she called her again last night she told my ex friend that she should see the doctor and leave me alone! Go Mama!! She just will not give up and i cant believe that it has got this bad in just a few days....makes me wonder what the hell else is going to happen.

Dreading this weekend cos im going out with my girlfriends from uni, and i can just see her turning up and causing a scene - then i might really run her over in a car!!

Veronica, that Enterprise comment was soooo funny! And a little spooky cos my hubby used to work for them! Maybe see if he can get me a deal...lolll

Pink! Gald to see you back and with some excellent words of wisdom!

Hi Steadfast_minx!! Meant to say hey the other day and forgot in the turmoil of all the scary crap thats going on at the mo! Welcome to the forum, Its great

Kevi - no point in hitting her...would just give her something to hold over me. Def not gonna beat her up (unless she threatens my family in which case HOLD ME BACK!!! Im still a pretty big girl i could prob do some damage!)

Thanx again guys You have been so supportive and I just hope it all gets sorted out soon.

xx

[steadfast_minx]

Steadfast_minx Welcome!, idk if your a guy/woman/girl


I am female, not really a girl and woman makes me feel old. I am 24 so you decide. I love basketball and I can thank it for my first acl tear.

[Kevi12]

Sorry, I forgot to add Female haha, dumb me! But anyways, welcome again

[tamwalt]

Welcome steadfast_minx! Hey everybody just stopping by to say hey!! How's everyone doing? And Tink, what you said about that girl sounds like she's turned totally in to stalker mode! Sounds SCARY!

[veronandez86]

I hope everyone has a nice weekend!

I'm heading outta town for a week. Let's hope that I don't return and find out when I'm weighing myself that I gained back the 10+ pounds I just lost!

Veronica

[tinkerbella]

Hey girls and Kevi

Had a great weekend so far Hope everyone else is having fun!

Quick update on stalker-friend situation...all sorted out for the mo She has apologised and promised that she will cut out the crazy stuff. She has also agreed to give me til the end of summer to decide what will happen to our friendship - doubt that it will be a diff decision though! Regardless, she has gone to stay with her mum for a bit, so i will get some peace for at least a month and then see what happens. Think Nat might have been right abt her meds being wrong, so hopefully she will get the doc to sort that.

Still very wary of her but big...sigh....of....relief.....

Thanx again for the words of wisdom!

[tabbigirl]

Good Morning Everyone! Seems I haven't been here for two months. Hello to everyone I haven't seen in awhile and hello to everyone that I haven't met yet.

My life has gotten a little crazy the last couple of months. I have gotten a new job...sorta. It's one of those reorg things where I am now reporting to a new boss a couple steps up on the food chain so I have a lot more responsibilities and a lot more meetings!! Time is not something I've had a lot of lately.

The cold weather got to me for awhile there, we were still getting snow in April and didn't get warmer weather until...seems like late May. I got a little unmotivated there for awhile. I was still watching what I ate...mostly and some exercising, but not as dedicated as I had been. I just weighed myself again for the first time in weeks last week and I'm right where I was, which means, I've done enough exercise and watching what I ate to maintain where I was at. Which I consider a good thing. Now the the weather is warmer, although a bit rainy right now I have increased my exercise and have been getting out for walks and bike rides.

Now, the interesting thing is, even though I've only maintained my weight and haven't been exercising as much, the last couple of weeks I have been getting a ton of compliments on how great I look. Sure does make me feel good!!

So that's what I have been up to, hope everyone here is doing well. I'll try to check in again soon. Take care!

[tabbigirl]

Oh, and I finally had the nerve to go through my summer clothes over Memorial weekend, I have a whole bunch of clothes that didn't fit last year that fit this year!!!

It feels like I have a new wardrobe!

[Kevi12]

Welcome Back Tabbigirl, to everyone, I checked out my jeans again and it seems like it's more loose than usual! I'm gonna start running soon so anyone wanna join? lol

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Tabbigirl!!!! Welcome back...long time no see! I am so happy to hear about your progress! You rock!

Kevi I am willing to run, but I cannot run maybe until Wednesday