IMHO you have two things that you need to be addressing here 1/ your courage and confidence 2/ your weight.
1/ People with a
BMI outside the normal range are allowed to have a social and romantic life. There is an obesity epidemic going on and the world is full of cuddly people. It would be sad if everyone with a
BMI outside the normal range withdrew from society and had no social / romantic life. Many people never fully address their problems - and would be single forever.
Ask yourself whether you would be interested in a woman no slimmer than yourself if she were attractive, considerate, kind, funny, charming. The chances are that you would say that you most certainly would find her very attractive. Allow therefore that a woman may feel the same about you. You just have to find the right one - and whatever our shape and size we face that problem.
My own
BMI is now in the normal range - but that does not mean that I am planning on trading in my wonderful husband (who is loving, kind, intelligent and charming). On his last weighing - his
BMI was over 57. Many women would wish that they could tick so many good boxes on a husband after being with someone for over 24 years.
2/ As far as your weight goes - you have come to the right place. There is a lot of good information here - I wish that I had known much of it twenty years ago. It takes hard work - but the rewards are there for the taking. You can literally make your
weight loss dreams come true by working hard. Read the sections on exercise and
nutrition paying particular attention to the sticky threads. Make sure that you become generally more active. I wear a pedometer all day every day and swear by it - it challenges you to add extra movement into your day to day life which does help you to lose weight.
Log your food and activity in
FitDay - Free Weight Loss and Diet Journal and you will see your calorie balance.
Start a diary and visit diaries and leave messages. Join clubs and challenges. These are great way of making friends which forms your support network which helps to see you through the tough times that we all encounter from time to time.
Believe that
weight loss is perfectly possible for the over 40s. I started my project at age 47 and got there pretty quickly all things considered. I lost the first 147
pounds in 14 months and the remaining 21
pounds in 13 months where I was practicing for maintenance and getting used to being a totally different size... I know that my pals Reluctantcabbie and Cord the seeker are both in your age range and doing brilliantly. You may want to check out their diaries etc.
Cord is running an exercise based challenge. You may want to join in that.
Good luck.
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