I can't post any more without people being mean to me. What did I do? Why does everyone here dislike me all of a sudden? I already get enough people being mean to me in real life. Why here, too?

Speaking only for myself, it's because you come across as someone who would rather curse the darkness than light a candle. After a while, people will stop giving you matches.

Having already wasted my match, I'll give you a second one. I think that reading the first post in this thread (http://www.weight-loss.fitness.com/w...fear-thin.html), and working through the suggested exercise as brutally honestly as you can, would be helpful to you. I'm sure you'll have some handy reason for why it won't be, though.

I tried that already. When I registered for the forum I read all the stickies and tried to take in/do what they said.

I just don't like how everyone here is mean to me. Lately, whenever I browse the forums, someone drives me to tears.

There ya have it.

So, since you tried it already, what were your 25 reasons?

I am the queen of being able to try the patience of Job.. You give me a run for my money...

Why do you think you people are mean to you?

Do you not think people are trying to help you? You ask for help - peopel take the time to give you good advice and you completely blow it off with a litany of reasons why you can't do something... Why did you ask for advice then?

You seem to only want advice on your own terms.

You've read the stickied threads.. great.. but you haven't been able to apply anything you've learned from them - you seem to want everything in black and white - but the world isn't like that -you'v'e got color -you have to make things work in your world...

The rest of your life is a long time - you are stressing over some pretty trivial stuff...

There are a lot of forums out there that are shiney happy places that are great for enabling behavior.. this -- really isn't one of them anymore - I really hope we've gotten away from that.. and hope that people accept responsibility for their actions...

That was a long time ago. I don't remember all 25. Some of them were that I could eat whatever I wanted, I wouldn't have to exercise, I wouldn't have to worry about dieting, etc. Those sorts of things.

And I do want advice, but there's some advice I just can't follow, or don't want to follow, or that wouldn't work for me. I have followed people's advice before. They don't know about it because they don't follow me around every day.

I'm just afraid to post, afraid to respond, afraid to say the wrong thing, afraid to tell the truth. I keep waiting for the next person to tell me I'm a joke, or a troll, or half-assing things.

So what were the 2 or 3 most powerful reasons, that you wrote out 2-page descriptions of? If you did that, and honestly don't remember what those reasons were, it might be worth another go-round. Significant things that your brain chooses to forget are almost always worth further examination.

FWIW, I don't think you're trolling. I do think that you're trying to solve a symptom (weight) without addressing the underlying cause. I have no clue what the underlying cause is, nor do I have any particular interest in figuring it out. But I do think that you'd benefit from figuring it out and resolving it, and that when you do, the weight will take care of itself.

edited: this won't help. I just want to say I'm sorry though. I really am sorry. Please forgive me. Everyone.

Someone else just called me a joke. Isn't this against the rules? How is this encouraging? I just want to lose weight. I don't want to come here and have people drive me to tears. I'd start another account if I didn't already post my stats. If it would make people not hurt me, it would be worth it.

Can a moderator please delete the thread in On Topic about boredom eating? It's not doing anybody any good. It's making more and more people dislike me. I cringe every time I think of it. I don't like people disliking me. I wish they'd forgive me but it's probably too late now.

You need to quit worrying about what other people think of you.

When I read things like "This thread can't be real... I feel dumber have read it. I think you are seriously fucking with people on this forum. No one is this lame." it makes me cry. Nobody likes to hear people say things like that to them. I'm sorry. I just wish they could forgive me.

Yes, I'm real. Some one, indeed, can be that lame. Congratulations: you've driven a real person to tears. Twice today. Once upon reading it initially, another time upon re-reading it. Is that what you wanted to do?

You need to get a grip...this is a great motivational site and i have to say that your question has been answered a number of times in this thread.. For you clarity i will spell it out for you

YOU ASK FOR ADVICE AND THEN THROW IT BACK IN PEOPLES FACES. YOU DISMISS PEOPLE AND ARE VERY NEGATIVE ALL THE TIME. yOU DO NOT ABSORB WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING AND THAT GETS PEOPLE ANNOYED.

There. In a nutshell thats it. I doubt anyone wants to make you cry but this is a place for everyone to support each other - not just you. You have a whole load of issues and i have posted on your diary a few times and offered advice. Each time you ignored it and were actually rather mean to me! I chose not to visit your diary again. You can make the same choice abt the forum - if people have upset you then dont read it!!!!!!!

Stop crying and moaning and take some advice. You may wonder why people are mean to you in real life and on here....if thats the case then you need to closely examine what it is that makes these people react in this way to you.

Just some advice with no intention other than to help you. Please dont think for a second that i want to upset you....i hate to see people feeling bad but you really do need to open your eyes to your tone and dismissive attitude.

I really hope that you reach your goals and can be a little happier.

From what I have seen Kathar, you have asked for advice and when people have given it, you have challenged them about it, given excuses or just ignored them and yet still expected more answers. Unfortunately this will only irritate people and make people think you are not serious or even worse just trolling.

No-one hates you cos no-one here really knows you. It's just a forum and one that is here for weight loss issues not personal ones.

Forgive me if I sound rude, harsh or out of line but I think you have alot of self esteem issues and definitely an element of depression. So I think rather than focus on people on a forum hating you and getting yourself in an emotional state, you need to look at the real people around you and concentrate on what they think of you. If you feel the same way about them (that they hate you etc) and you are generally unhappy in real life then I think you would benefit from taking a visit to your GP/Doctor for advice