So long story short.....(kinda)

Thought I had hurt my lower left back on 8/14/2009 but instead it was worse then that.

Found out I was preg. on 8/21 found out 2 weeks later it was in the wrong spot (tube)(on left side that is why my lower back hurt so much) so I have been on hold with my diet (explanation in a sec) and with working out.

I was just released to eat normally even though my hormone levels still show I am preg. With the treatment that I received (Methotrexate)I could not eat anything with lots of folic acid, they told me no veggies, no enriched breads no pasta. so basically I have been living off of protien and potatoes and junk food.

So even though I am not released medically to exercise again, I am preparing myself to start again. I have gained 5 pounds . what I want to know once I am ready to go again do I go full out 6 days a week like I was doing or do I work myself slowley into it? I am pissed that I gained any weight but what do I expect with sitting on my butt and eating? I also started taking Zoloft cuz of my depression from this and am going to wean myself slowly off of that over the next couple weeks.

Thanks Tracy

Hey Tracy.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you feel better soon.

Obviously I'd say check with your doctor first, but my instinct says not to jump right back into a hard 6-day routine. After several weeks of resting, you may not be able to jump right back into it where you left off, so just listen to your body and do the most you can.

I am also very sorry for your loss.

With all that going on - and with a propensity to gain weight because of your PCOS - I think that a 5 pound gain is not nearly so big as it might have been. You clearly have not been eating quite as bad a diet as your post implies. Maybe there was not quite as much junk as you remember it being. Maybe the depression is talking in part...

I suppose that the glimmer of hope is there in that you have seen a definite demonstration of the fact that you are ovulating too. Try to focus on this single positive aspect of the recent sad events. I think that is what I would be doing in your shoes...

You now know that it is perfectly possible for a PCOS lady to lose weight effectively so losing those 5 pounds and continuing with your project is within your sights.

I too would suspect that you should take things a little easier with the exercise at first - and I would be asking doctors (and indeed specialists) for their advice.

Prior to my operation last year - I was walking a minimum of 11 miles a day and doing various exercise classes. I was very keen to get back into my project and was basically told that I had to not do any exercise classes for 6 weeks but that I could build up my walking. I was allowed to do a slow 1 mile walk the day after I got out of hospital - and build it up by a mile a day. I could walk - but not at my normal pace. I was also told not to do much in the way of bending, stretching or lifting anything.

Maybe you will get permission to do something similar yourself... It may be that you can start something - but not your normal routine.

Thanks for the messages. My hormone levels (HCG) are down to 290 from 3600 so that is good!! Still all they want me to do is walk. I was up 9 pounds and started walking probably harder then they want me to, but I am walking anywhere from 45 min to an hour at a rate between 3.0 and 3.8 and an incline between 4 and 15. Like I said that is probably not what they meant as far as vigerously walking but I am just listening to what my body is telling me and if I start to have pain or feel funky I crank it down a bit. Anyway I am down 3#'s in a week so I am happy with that.

My trainer keeps telling me that he is gonna work me hard when I get back to training with him..... All I have to say is bring it on! I like a challenge so I am looking forward to it.

I started taking the antidepressants even though I did not want to because I have heard horror stories about it making you gain weight. So far it has not made me gain weight and has made me feel like I can deal with myself. I do not know what to do about birth control. One side of me wants another baby even though I am 40, but the other side of me after 2 losses does not want to go through that pain again and really wants to concentrate on losing this 68#'s I have to go. I am just torn. It is not like I am in my 20's and have time to figure it out............I am 40. I am not gonna worry about that right now I guess. We have till December till we could try again anyway so in the mean time I am just gonna keep walking till my hormone levels are 3.5 or under.

I swear that walking helps you to feel more tranquil when hormones want to send you on a peaks and troughs roller-coaster ride.

Listening to your body is a very good approach as far as the walking / exercise goes. If at any time it feels too much - turn things down a notch.

Anyone would be depressed with what you are going through - so it is no surprise that they feel that antidepressants may help you. Congratulate yourself for not gaining weight with them - clearly your hard work is having an effect (and walking at that speed is work - it is not a stroll in the park...).

Only you can decide whether to try again. I am sure that you know that PCOS ladies have a greater risk of miscarriage than the average lady. Having said that - sometimes the greatest risks bring the greatest rewards... Two bad experiences do not mean that a third will end in the same sad way.

Focus on eating healthily and doing what exercise your body can cope with. That puts you in the best shape for both weight loss and pregnancy - so however things turn out you would be in the best position.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's tough to get back into the swing of things after having a loss. I had the same thing happen in the summer of 2008. I had an ectopic pregnancy and was treated with 2 metho shots. Even after I was cleared to do things normally, I still took it slow and focused on me from the inside and the outside. It's hard to want a baby, but not want to go through the pain of a loss again. For me the third time was the charm.

Best wishes to you