Hi, I'm new, obviously
Like most women I'm constantly having trouble with being happy with the way I look, I just seem to be a little more obsessive than others. I can't stop comparing myself to girls I see that look slimmer and healthier than I am! This makes me feel shallow and totally guilty.. but there it is.

I'm done with trying to learn to accept, so I decided to do something about it. I hope this forum will help me keep focused!

the confidence will come eventually - but I can't speak from personal experience here, because I'm still workking on it myself - but you really do need to be satisfied with yourself - no matter what your weight is -and not be concerned with how you look compared to others.

Using aBMI Calculator, which aren't always a true assessment, but at your current height of 5'4, you are within normal range, your goal weight would put you at the very low end of the normal range almost into underweight.

Don't be so concenred with the n umber ont he scale but rather measurements and how you are feeling...

and welcome to the site...

Hi cosmonaut, I have to agree that looking at your BMI you are at a healthy weight already, not even near overweight. Of course you should eat good foods and exercise, but don't fret about your weight (easier said than done, I know).

We're all our own worst critics. Try not to judge yourself too hard on your appearance; there's a lot more to you than that.

mathmajor

all i can say is always try to think positive and see yourself in a good light. your weight is very normal.

Thanks guys.
It's really frustrating because some days I look in the mirror and I think 'ok I look good'. But that bit of confidence I have is REALLY fragile and it's easily dumped over by a passing comment, or a bad photo, or even watching a damn music video. After big meals I am ALWAYS thinking about making myself throw up, although I've never dobe it. If I put this much effort into reading books or memorizing the periodic table I'm sure I'd be better off! I only ever talk about this to my boyfriend because I need to let it out somewhere, and it drives him nuts. It shocks him because even he only really knows me as a confident, independant girl I try hardest to portray myself as. I think it's a lot better for me to vent on a forum like this.

In anycase, yea I'll focus more on my overall health than the numbers, but it's there as a sort of measuring stick for me to feel like I'm getting somewhere. I'll go get a tape measure today so I could have some more numbers to play with.