You may want to check out The Harsh Truth thread for some fantastic tips and tricks and truths

“ I am married to a great man but he does not understand what it is like to be over weight “

It might not be that he does not understand it might be that he just does not know how to talk to you about your weight gain. Many guys have a real fear of upsetting their partners feelings, so rather than saying something, they say nothing.

To some men weight is not an issue “they love you just the way you are“.

It might mean you have to sit down with him and explain exactly how being over-weight makes you feel and offer him some benefits “ wouldn’t you like to see me in a tighter skirt, Would'nt you like to see me a few lbs lighter” etc. .

I think that once he feels that your cool about talking about it he will open up as well.

However remind him that you need positive encouragement on a regular basis and not criticism especially when you get days that you just don’t stick to your plan. Once you get him on board I am sure you'll get lots of support

Hope that helps from a male perspective.

I am new here, so I am not sure if I am doing this right..lol....duh I know! Anyways, I have started exercising and cutting portions just yesterday, so I Have a LONG way to go. I am hoping to find new friends here and some support when I need it or support that I can give! That would be great!

hello guys i to am a newbie with 79Ibs to loose i"ve been reading around the forum and think it will be great support system .

Hi from Canada! I began this journey at the beginning of July after being diagnosed with PCOS. I weighed in at 211 (I am 5'4") and as of Sep. 14 have lost 23 pounds. I still have a good 30 or so to go. Good luck, all!

thnx wishes, u just did me a huuuuge favor!
the reason i usually quit dieting and working out is becoz i usually start off with everything all together, changing everything at the same time when in fact THIS is what i need, taking things one step at a time...so yeah i'll try that =)

Thanks for the welcome

I want to know how I can use this site to help me get thinner fitter and stay that way

Thank you for the great intro!

I'm new to the forum as well!

I'm in my second year at university and want to try to negate the freshman 15... or maybe 20 of last year. I'm making lots of positive changes, but I want to make sure that I stay on track this time. Has everyone here found this site to be helpful?

I've been on Sparkpeople.com... it's a GREAT site.

I go through periods of great motivation and periods of complete laziness. I'm in the LAZINESS phase right now and I'm about to bust the zippers on all my pants! I know I can lose weight and get in shape... I just can't make myself do it.

My cholesterol was high at my last lab check and I'm avoiding having it rechecked like my doctor recommended because I know it will be worse. It's almost like a black cloud I can't get out of. I know what to do, I just can't make myself do it.

I hate feeling this way. The other problem is that I'M SO HUNGRY ALL THE TIME. I pack healthy lunches and snacks, but I have no willpower around the junk food at the office. Then I just give up and eat anything and everything.

Is anyone else going through this?
Anyone willing to give me a HUGE kick in my HUGE butt???

Hi,

Look, it's hard to get motivated but it's also pretty depressing when you don't have any pants that fit.

You have to use your willpower. U know, just do it one time, pass up the snack, start w/ one and go from there. Also, don't beat yourself up if you fall off the wagon, get back on. Drink the water, at least 64 ozs. The good thing is if u can make it thru one day and drink the water, by the next day u might have dropped 1 - 4 lbs depending on how much water you r storing. Kind of nice to see the wt drop, even if it is just water wt.

Make some goals, start a journal/diary, write down everything and yes I mean everything u eat, write down your emotions when you ate it.

Make a plan. Soooooo many times I said I am going to lose wt, but really had no plan except maybe go to the gym. But my food habits sucked!

I've only just started, but by writing stuff down, I see where my problem times, when I get home from work.

write your goals in your online diary:
how much u want to lose?
by when?
How much each month? (make it sensible, 20lbs in a month ain't gonna happen unless u r extremely overwt and retaining a ton of water and even then, seems unreasonable and cutting off your head ain't an option)
How often do u want to workout?
what type of workout do u want to do?
wts. & some form of interval cardio trainiing?
now detail thiis and write what days u plan on working out.

Hope this helps.

My advice, dont wait for motivation, you could be waiting a very long time.

Motivation comes AFTER you loose the weight so i found.

traceyfin,
I am new as well...and I am totally understanding where you are...desperate....scared...wondering "what's wrong with me that I can't DO THIS?" Thinking "If I try again...nothing is going to change...I will fail again"...this is how I feel. But, that is why I joined this forum...I am looking for support, answers, tips, pushing and shoving from people who have been through or are going through what I am going through. Hopefully, we can support eachother.

Hi,

I'm new to the forum and was wanting to start a diary to keep myself accountable. I'm having a little trouble, though, figuring out how to do so. Can anyone help me? thanks.

Hi, I just joined here tonight. I am a mom of 3 children and have been married for almost 9 years. I own my own business and I love to cook, bake, make candles etc.

I have never been really overweight in high school i was 5'10 120lbs. When I turned 21 I gained like 40lbs in a year. I really contribute this to moving out of my parents home, eating fast food everyday and drinking lots of beer everynight. Anyways, when i got married I was 150lbs. Then had my 1st baby 2 babies later I still have not seen 150 on a scale. I really haven't tried that hard though. Now, that I am almost 185 I think its time to slim back down and start looking good and feeling good again.

My issues are that I eat because I am bored or upset. Of course, owning a store that carries all the goodies does not help either. I am a big pop-a-holic and I love chocolate.

My goal is to lose 45-50lbs by cutting out pop, sugar, potatoes (gonna be tough with that one) and most breads. Plus, I am going to try some exercises and my ball with some weights.

I would like to lose as much as I can by March-April for my high school reunion. I think most people would crap thier pants if they could see me now.

Anyways, if anyone has any good advice as to how to jump start the weight loss I certainly would appreciate it. Also, if there are any moms here that now how to battle the pouch left from babies let me know how this can be done. I have had 3 babies over 9lbs each and I really need to tighten this problem area. So that being said my problem areas seem to be my mid-section thighs, stomach, hips.

Thanks to all and I look forward to getting to know everyone.

smward