I feel like a failure

Mandie · #1 (**permalink**) March 1st, 2007, 01:27 AM

Hiya everyone, Well....Im not exactly new on here....I joined about 5 months ago...but..im afraid....the weight watchers thing didn't work out for me...I found it so hard...and so restrictive...-I feel like I have failed...Im feeling very low at the moment....I want to suceed...I hate being like this. My husband doesn't understand, as Ive tried lots of diets...I dont really have any friends who understand..as they are all size 8-10. Has anyone else been through this situation??

DellaMack · #2 (**permalink**) March 1st, 2007, 02:19 AM

yeah i have,

Last yeah i did weight watchers after a friend of mine who was about 14st lost ALOT over what seemed months. She is now a size 10 and looking really good. I told my man that i was going and he laughed out loud. He said that i was fine the way i am. But frankly I'm not.

I went to a meeting near me with a woman who lives across the street, i felt as though i was really taking the bull by the horns and that this would really work. But when i got to the meeting i began to feel low as most of the women were alot older than me and i sat alone in the corner while the woman from across the rd went and talked to her friends.

I followed there advice for about 3 weeks loosing 4lb in total, then i went on holiday and the whole thing went up in a puff of smoke. I didn't feel like i wanted to go back. It wasn't really right for me.

About 7 months later i found myself back where i had started and feeling low and like a failure. But now i know it wasn't right for me.

Thats whats Important. Is it right for you? It may have been right for my friend but it wasn't for me. You have to find your own way of safely and effectivly loosing weight. Ignor your friends and your man and do whats right for you to feel comfortable with yourself. Its your body and you have the power and right to change it.

Now i go for walks at the weekends with my partner, i don't buy junk food and i try and get some regular time on the bike.

Loosing wieght isn't about fads or diets, its about changing bad habbits and creating new good habbits. Ones that will last.

Your not a failure and i bet that soon you will find your own way. Cheer up. We will all be here to give you support as and when you need it.

(((((hug)))))

Mandie · #3 (**permalink**) March 1st, 2007, 02:27 AM

Thank you so much for your reply..it meant alot to me..its nice to know that other people found W.W hard...I thought if I wanted it bad enough then I'd make it work..but..it really wasn't working for me.
Its good that you go for walks to exercise..I have started horse riding again (which I love)..so hopefully I might to start to tone up again.
You have made me feel a lot more positive and better about myself..thank you so much...I think I just needed someone who understood. Im gonna try and eat healthier from now on...I need a long term plan rather than a quick fix...Im planning to walk to college aswell later (its about a 20 min walk...but..every little helps hey!)...thank you again!!

DellaMack · #4 (**permalink**) March 1st, 2007, 02:45 AM

I'm glad i could help. Its hard being surrounded by skinny women all day i know. I just produced a film where the lead girl was about 7stone and the rest of them including crew were all about 9stone each. I felt like i giant.

This has really kicked me into gear.

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