This thread can't be real... I feel dumber have read it. I think you are seriously fucking with people on this forum. No one is this lame.

You have EVERY excuse in the book and I am fairly certain it's all bullshit anyways.

Why people are responding to this thread to help you is beyond me; in reality this is the internet and if you aren't willing to help yourself, why should strangers even bother?

Pooh,

Aren't you a High School teacher? I thought you would be used to this whining by now. "Teacher, I couldn't do my homework and it's not my fault. You can't fail me." It's an immaturity that is not universal, but you see it everywhere.

Nah, I remember being 16-18. I was at least that lame, and had just as many excuses for everything. It's just an atrocious age to be.

On the upside, pretty much everyone outgrows it by the time they're 30 or so. (I was slow. So very slow.)

It's real. I'm sorry you feel that my reasons are excuses, but they're legitimate reasons. What I don't understand is why you have to be this mean to me when I haven't done a thing to you.

OK, let's say that your reasons are legitimate. I do think that you believe that they are. What are you going to do about it. Putting it out here for everyone to see hasn't gotten you anywhere. You have to do something. So, what will it be? No more excuses. Time for action.

I am trying. I haven't given up yet. Every day I try again. Every day I fail again, of course, but I do keep trying. Until I come here and someone else insults me to the point of tears.

Remember that what you see here is nothing more then little tiny dots on a computer screen. Nothing more. They can't hurt you. It's only when you are looking at yourself that the little dots have the power to hurt. Find that part of yourself and you will gain power over it. Don't cry. Learn.

Trying the same thing each day will get you nowhere. Make a new plan and do that. Learn from your mistakes. Don't repeat them.

No they are not legitimate reasons?

The library is too far away, you dont want to go because you look like crap from the gym???? Thats not an legitimate excuse!
You could go to the library before hand and then go to the gym???

What about going out and meeting people? Socialising?????

First of all, I'm not trying to put you down or anything, I just hope you can see how ridiculous this claim is. Sorry, I just couldn't stop myself from commenting on this. I've read the whole thread and can't believe this is a legitimate reason...you say you have 15 hours of a day that you have nothing to do with, yet you're not willing to volunteer because it would be deemed 'wasting your time'? Sorry...I just can't fathom the logic behind that. Can you really not see how silly that sounds?


Anyway, if you can't find anyone who is hiring, why don't you take things into your own hands? Why don't you put an advert in your local shop windows offering to babysit, dogwalk or clear people's gardens? Or offer old people in your neighbourhood to do their chores if you don't know what needs doing in your own home. That way you're not relying on jobs to open up, you're earning some money and most of all they're things that will get you exercise and take your mind off of food.


I used to be like you, I would find excuses that I honestly thought were real problems to deter myself from the actual real problems I was facing. I would get upset about my weight and my boyfriend would suggest ways in which I could change things, but I would come up with stupid excuses - I can't go to the gym because there might be people there I know, and they'll judge me, or - I can't cut down what I eat during my time of the month as I'm low on energy etc. etc. because I didn't want to admit that I COULD change something about myself I just didn't want to put in the effort in case I failed. But I realised that if I didn't do something I would end up wallowing in self pity with no one to support me, at least if I tried people would respect me for doing something about it instead of just whining. Maybe your situation isn't completely the same, but it sounds similar.

Don't get me wrong. I think it's silly too. I volunteered during my entire first year of college. But the difference is my mother couldn't tell me no then, because I wasn't living with her. Now that I'm living in her house, she can, because if I don't listen to her, she can kick me out (which she has done before.) She wants me to get a job and earn money so I won't be an expense for her.

I could do what you suggested but I have no idea where to start. I'll look into it, though.

I could go to the library before the gym. I'm not going to, though. Any reason I give will be twisted as an excuse, so I'm not even going to bother. Just as a statement of fact, though, I look like crap both before and after I go to the gym, because I'm wearing a ratty T-shirt and poorly fitting sweatpants, and I don't do my hair because it'll just get sweaty anyway.

Exactly what I was going to say.
They are not even remotely close to being legitimate.


As I read more of the OP's posts I truly am beginning to believe that this is a joke.
Bravo!

This isn't a joke, I swear. This is my life. It hurts when people call me a joke. I'm sorry. I can start lying and pretending everything is great if you want, but that won't help any of us.

I'm terribly sorry. I just want people to like me again. This isn't a joke. I promise.

Please forgive me. I just want you to not be upset with me.

First off, I have never seen so many excuses in one thread by one person.

I have seen people give you good suggestions, but you have shot every single one down.

“Your only limitation is the one that you set up in your own mind” - Napoleon Hill

You ask for advise, but I don't think you really want it. I think you just want someone to complain to.

Life ain't easy, life has problems. How we grow is defined by how we deal with these problems. You can't expect someone to be able to help if you are not willing to do any work or make any sacrifices.

You won't go to the library because you don't look perfect? Suck it up. QUIT worrying about what other people think of you

Quit making excuses.


Secondly, "Please forgive me. I just want you to not be upset with me." < That is a major problem. As I said in the other thread, you NEED to quit worrying about what other people think of you.

You can't make the whole world love you or even like you. There is now, and will always be, people that do not like you. You need to accept this.

Can a moderator please delete this thread? It's not helping any of us and I don't want people to keep flaming me. I'm talking about people who are saying that "no one can be this lame", etc.

Are you listening to any advice or are you just dismissing it?