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Yoji · June 16th, 2007, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by nataliejo

1) Do you ever get sooo sad that you don't want to do anything and don't have the motivation to do so?
2) Do you think in black and white, like all or nothing thinking?
3) Sorry to ask, but how have past relationships gone? and how are your relationships now?

You might suffer from border line personality disorder ..
thats what it sounds like ..
I do the same thing you do ..except I am getting help ..therapy to stop thinking black and white ...to stop getting down on myself, and afraid to fail ...its like your a carbon copy of how I have felt and am striving not to feel like...

your not going to be a failure ..don't focus on the negative ..don't be deterred if you cheat one night or two nights

get some antacids ..like Zantac to control the acid upset ..if you get any when you don't eat

sometimes I chew sugarless gum with aspertame in it ...if I am in a pinch and need something to feel like I am eating and the acid is bad

try to eat regular meals ..don't ditch your meals ..
just try ..don't beat yourself over the head if you can't stick with your plan completely for a while ..
it is a life change ..this diet will be forever ...
you need to look at is as an investment into a beautiful you .. you are already beautiful ... we see your beauty ...

don't sell yourself short by feeling defeat by eating a cookie or two ..or eating the whole bag of chips ..just wake up the next morning and try to go through another day and come back to this board

you might not be able to cut all bad food out of your diet right away ...so just eat some ... like one night you eat the whole bag ..well another night try to just eat partial ..slowly you will get off the junk food highs ...

trust me ..if I can do this ..so can you... we can do this together ...we all can do it together ...this is what this forum is for ..

best wishes
ttylater
always
natalie jo

stay strong ..

Hey, sorry for taking so long to answer you Natalie. I’ve jut been trying to figure out what to say really. Was a little surprised at what ya wrote.

So first off I guess is:
1.Yes, it happens, but it’s more a combination of frustration/boredom and sadness I think.
2.Only when it comes to exercising and food… ^_^;; And that means that if I break my calorie goal for the day I usually ends up eating way more then I should because I’ve already exceeded it.
3.Relationships… well that’s a tricky one. XD BF wise it’s been alright… but I’ve had a couple of them, but it always ends up that we’re best suited as friends. XD and I’m the one that has broken it off.

When it comes to friends… well I have a few good ones now, but most of the time growing up I’ve been alone. I’ve had a tendency to trust ppl wholeheartedly without a second thought, and that has caused me some trouble. XD Mostly because I’ve been to honest and end up saying things that should not have been said. ^_^; I’m fine now though, I’m not the kind of person that has to have someone around all the time. It’s tiring. XD

And I have to cut things out right away, but I have one day that I’ll allow myself something ‘bad’ to eat. And that’s Fridays. So yesterday I had a nice dinner XD Really good, and then had a can of soda. But I didn’t need anything more then that.

And I eat every 3 hours now, not skipping meals or nothing, no use because I’m always hungry after 3 hours. XD

And I know I can do it. XD I just need my motivation back, and I’ve found it again. So now things are looking up again. And the daily exercise is boring as hell but it’s good for me… just annoying that my knees hurt a lot after the walk. -_-;; If it wasn’t for that it wouldn’t be so bad. ^_^;

I’m gonna be able to do this now. I know it. I have my motivation, now I just have to stick to my food plan and exercise daily and everything will be great. I’m gonna have a walk free day a week though. XD And that’s Mondays, because that’s my cleaning day, so I’ll be running up and down stairs with laundry and stuff. I’ll still be doing my sit-ups and back exercises though. ^__^

Thank you for your concern though. *hugs* I appreciate it.

Yoji · June 16th, 2007, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Juliette

I have one explanation to why you have had a hard time controlling yourself. Your calorie limit for the day is way too low. For a person your size the daily calorie consumption is on average around 2600+ cals. That's counting everyday living and some activity. For weight-loss you should cut maximum of 25% off of that and, if you want, add exercise to make the deficit bigger. That would mean eating about 2000 cals a day. Walking 45 minutes a day would add 250 cals to your deficit. One pound of fat equals 3500 cals, so that way you would lose 1-2 pounds a week.
For reasons why you should eat more calories than you are now aiming for, read http://weight-loss.fitness.com/harsh...-gain-fat.html, http://weight-loss.fitness.com/nutri...ion-101-a.html, http://weight-loss.fitness.com/topic...aptations.html, just to mention a few..
And why do I think upping your calorie allowance would help you to stay in your diet? Well, your body has it's own way of surviving. If you feed it badly, it will tell you about it by making you peckish, hungry and finally forcing you to eat something "against your better judgement". If you feed it just a bit below the maintenance level, you are actually able to keep that going for long enough time to lose weight, and not trigger this "survival" mode which just simply throws your brain out of the window and goes by animal instinct alone.

How does that sound to you?
Julie

Hey Julie, Thanks for adding your 2 cents as well.
The thing is, I have a computer program that calculates all that stuff for me, and since I hardly move around much during the day, since I don’t have a job and no real social life in the city I live in now, I know that if I want to stay at my current weight for example I shouldn’t eat more then 1700 calories.
And I also know that if I eat more then that I gain, my metabolism is really low since I’ve been sitting around in front of my computer most of the time for a loooooong time. ^_^;;

Hope that makes sense.

I’ll add a screen cap of the program. XD

http://i100.photobucket.com/albums/m...ireru/prog.gif <--- go there to take a look at the screencap. ^_^

Yoji · June 17th, 2007, 08:13 AM

Well, the day had been good so far when it comes to food and exercise. But I'm tierd. XD Not used to this much walking.
One good thing though is that my knees are starting to hurt less. It's almost scary how bad my stamina is, and how deprived my body is of exercise. >___>;
I'm doing my best though. And tomorrow I have a day off from walking. XD I'll be cleaning most of the day instead. Something that really has to be done.

And in about a week I'm going to visite my sister and go to an amusementpark. XD Haven't been to one in years, so I'm really looking forward to it... something I'm not looking forward to though is the trainride... >___>; I think it's like a 6-7 hour ride there... and I have to change trains 2 times. -_-;

But, I'm still looking forward to it. Gonna try and stick to my diet the best I can. But I'll have a cheat day while we're at the amusementpark. XD Junkfood is a part of the deal. XD

Oh well... Gonna prepare dinner soon, so I'll be off to see what choices I have today. ^__^

Laters~