IN all honesty, you can't compare -they are them you are you.. there will always be someone smarter, better, faster, prettier, younger, richer, whateverer... you just have to be the best you possible... and you do that very well...

That makes complete sense to me.... especially with the understanding of how our minds work. If you are told every single day of your childhood that you're inadequate... chances are pretty damn good that you're going to feel inadequate, even if you're successful, in adulthood.

Although physical traits don't define a person, I would imagine as you travel down this path of weight loss, it would help out the feeling of inadequacies, right?

Completely changing them I think takes a lot of mental reprogramming. A lot of management of self talk, focusing in on what you're saying to yourself and correcting it from there.

My journal gets a lot of views.

But not a lot of visitors.

Am I scary?



Anyhow here's one of the vids of our upcoming website... not.

This guy may be one of the biggest tools I've seen in the industry.

YouTube - 4 Minutes to "Fabulous" Abs - 6 Pack Abs & Strong Core

intimidating sometimes...

scary -not so much...

actually if you sort this forum by views -your diary is top dog...

no one has higher posts than yours does..

and views wise, you're in second place...

Intimidating?

How the hell so?

That was more so from the beginning I believe. I used to keep this thing really active... not so much anymore though. This used to be where I answered everyone's questions. Then I became much more vocal throughout the forum.

That's bullshit.

I want first.

you really want to know?

or were you being a smarty pants?

be like Avis -just try harder

Is it b/c I call it how I see it? And some people don't like that.

pretty much... and I consider that one of your many good qualities... but sites like this -- people get a little used to the enabling atmosphere and for some - not being coddled is a litle different.. .and believe - coddling is the last thing that some people need (especially me )

Ya, I definitely don't coddle. I get this from my mother. Though she would do anything in the world for those she cares about.... she most definitely tells it like it is.

Why not.

The truth is what's important, no point in dancing around it IMO. Especially regarding the things we discuss on this forum.

I was gonna pm this but screw it..

I do think you are very approachable by new people -

you've invested a lot of time and effort trying to help people who would have otherwise been ignored on this forum becuase of a low post count or not making themselves known...

I like your momma

I tend to be the same way -I got a reputation on another forum for pretty muchteling it like it is - I've toned it down some what here -but if Ididn't care about someone -I'd ignore and move on...

Thanks Mal.

Sometimes I wish I could get to more people but I don't have the time and I don't feel like giving a half-assed response. In order for me to 'really' help, it would take a lot of time. The last couple of days I have a bit of free time so I've been more detailed with quite a few of the newcomers.... always feels so much better when I'm able to be detailed.