Valerie Bertinelli's Bikini Body...

Amiba · March 26th, 2009, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ChefChiTown

Just to play Devil's advocate here...

People can be bigger or smaller based on their genes too, so why should we be proud of how our bodies look and not our faces?

FYI - I don't care about anybody's face or body or how any of it looks. I just think that society holds people to some ridiculous, meaningful, shallow and superficial standard when it comes to what our bodies are "supposed" to look like. That influences our youth to believe that there is something wrong with them if they don't look like the people on TV and in magazines. The funniest part about the whole thing...what society tells us that our bodies are "supposed" to look like is in the huge minority of how people really look like.

My ex-girlfriend used to feel down about her looks all the time and she was absolutely gorgeous. It was this ridiculous, societally enforced standard that she was trying to live up to which was causing her to feel ugly, even though she was already perfect.

I don't know your mom, but...that's REALLY mean of her to say. Damn.

Our whole entire society brainwashes people into thinking that we're "supposed" to be a certain way and, if we don't comply with those standards, then we're bad, unattractive, undesirable people (in both a physical and personality sense). It's all bullshit and seeing "perfect" women on magazine covers all the time isn't helping anything. It just makes things worse for people who don't look like that.

I mean, I don't have the face of George Clooney or the body of David Beckham, but that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with me. Yet, I'm sure a lot of women (no offense to anyone of them here) look at me and see that I don't have a perfect face or a chiseled body and just brush me off because I don't look like I'm "supposed" to (in society's eyes).

It was sad because your mom is supposed to support you and be there for you. my dad is a captain and he spend most of the time out navigating so the only strong, ''formative'' figure I had was her. of course it effed up the perception I had of myself.

I had to finally confront her and tell her that because I am chubby it doesn't mean I am not desirable, indeed.

well those kinds of women that obsess on the outside are mostly insecure.
many guys that look ''perfect'' by society standards (and I am not saying all of them there are exceptions) tend to be dickheads, really. they are so fed up with themselves thanks to excessive appreciation to their bodies that they tend to treat women like crap. the awful thing is that many girls bare this because ''he is hot'' hah.

give me the chubby, sensitive guy that loves food and has a great sense of humor anytime over the ''perfect body'' type!

ABBAgirl · March 27th, 2009, 08:48 AM

Whatever happened to Kirstie Alley (sp?), who was the initial celeb spokesperson for Jenny Craig? She seems to have disappeared from public view...

It will be interesting to see if Valerie (and Marie Osmond) are able to change over to the "real foods" and keep their weight low. I hope they can, because there are few things more distressing than gaining weight with the whole world watching (and judging).

I find it awkward balancing my own desire to be a smaller size with the fact that I don't want my daughters thinking that how a gal looks is the most important thing. I rarely discuss weight loss with them, but I do talk about the need for EVERYONE to exercise and eat well, without too much junk. I invite them to go walking with me, or biking, or whatever. They will NEVER, EVER hear from me that they are anything other than absolutely beautiful, inside and out - and that any fella would be the luckiest guy on earth to have them by his side!!!

ABBA

familyweese · March 27th, 2009, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by ABBAgirl

They will NEVER, EVER hear from me that they are anything other than absolutely beautiful, inside and out - and that any fella would be the luckiest guy on earth to have them by his side!!!

ABBA

I wish you were my mom. All she ever did was talk about how disgusting fat women were and when I got married i was 180 and she asked my husband what was wrong with him why would he marry a fat girl right in front of me. Even though at that weight i was only a size 9.

ChristyP · March 27th, 2009, 09:46 AM

I think a Parent needs to strike a balance.
While a child is young it is easy to steer them in the direction you want without ever telling then a thing.
A parent is in charge of everything a young child eats and all activity.

I remember watching my Mom try to lose a few pounds and get in shape for my oldest sister's wedding. It was a wonderful thing for me. She would watch "Jack Lalaine"
it taught me that I am in control of my fitness and that exercise will make a change for the better in my body. I loved doing exercises with her.
I never took her exercise routine to mean that how you look is the most important thing.... I took it to mean that people who care about themselves, take care of themselves.
I think you can make your fitness goals a positive thing for your children.

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