4. What will I feel bad about after I loose weight? What will I worry about? More importantly, what excuse will I have for having a low self-esteem?



Oh man, this is EXACTLY how I feel!! Glad to know i'm not the only one!

I am afraid to loose weight b/c.....

1..What will I have to worry over afterwards??? (yes, i stole it but i still feel that way)

2...How will it change the relationship I have w/ my overweight hubby?? ****

3...do I really have the energy or "willpower" it takes to change??

4..it really is just plain easier to stay fat! ***

5....will I change?? get diva-ish?

6...will my overweight friends/family hate me??

7...what if my new found confidence causes me to want to find a better, healthier hubby??***

8...what if I cant' afford to dress as nice as I am picturing?

9...will I forever be obsessed w/my weight??

10. will I like who I am??


** indicates top 3 I have to work on!

I wrote down 25. But here are my top three:

1. I am fat because I don't want to approach the world and I don't want to be rejected.
2. I am fat because it gives me reason to drive people away from me.
3. I am fat because it is how I define myself. Without it, who will I be?

Ugh......

I fear this one too. I'm afraid that I will become a bitch or someone that is SO not me. lol. It's funny, but its not.

Hey mal, this was such a great post. I tried the exercise and came out with some really strange, very personal things...I'm not sure if they are the truth or not but they came from somewhere! Thanks.

I've always been a little "chunky" but in my 20's I gained about 80 pounds after quitting smoking. In my early 30's I lost 60#. I felt more uncomfortable with the positive attention that I received than I did with the negative attention from being overweight. I did regain the weight though and that's why I'm here.

This is definetly something I ought to think about.

I think i need help with alot of this.I am not good with tring to loss weight and these are my reasons.

1.What if its not worth it after i do loss the weight?

2.What if i still dont look good in a smaller pants size?

3.What if i still dont feel good wearing a shirt that DONT go to my thights?

4.What if i have alot of hanging skin that looks worst then it does now?

I ask myself this stuff and come up with alot of bad things for each one and then i go eat something and think o well i wont be worth it.

Everytime i try to loss weight i do it for like 2-3 weeks and then someone will say are you lossing weight or wow you have lost some weight. I dont know why but ever time someone tells me that thats it i stop trying and gain it all back.Then think why would it bother me so much that someone could tell i lost weight?

For most people i think someone telling them this just gives them more of a reason to try lossing more.BUT NOT ME.

I also worry about when I do get skinny and make new friends...are they really going to like me for me? Would they like me if I was still fat? Because honestly, I don't want to befriend anyone who wouldn't like me no matter what I looked like.

This is a hard exercise....I don't really fear being thin, I'm super excited to not be a fat blob anymore.

So maybe I'll reverse the exercise---6 things I'm looking forward to:

1. I'm enjoying people saying things like 'Wow, you look great!' or 'You're losing weight aren't you?'
2. I'm also enjoying the double takes that guys are giving me now and really look forward to being a skinny minny and getting those looks.
3. I'm also noticing that my body feels better, my knee doesn't hurt anymore, I can walk up stairs without being winded, and I sleep better.
4. I can't wait to keep buying new and hip clothes. Fat clothes are so ugly.
5. No more fears about fitting in tight places.
6. Tons of energy.

Some fears:

1. Gaining it all back and then some!
2. Attracting the attention of ugly guys.
3. Being skinny and John still being fat. It's hard enough being in public with him b/c everyone stares and points but if I'm a tooth pick and he's a blob--I don't think I could handle it. It's embarrassing.
4. I guess I also fear giving up...it's freakin' hard sometimes and would just be so much easier to shove a burger down my throat.

Elegance: Here's what I'm doing about the clothes situation--because stylish clothes are super expensive--I take $40 out of every paycheck and hide it away so that when Spring comes and its time for me to buy a new wardrobe I'll have almost $500 saved up! I'm also asking for gift cards to Dress Barn and stuff for birthday/Christmas.

Ooh, think about this. With an ever increasing number of obese people, you are actively working to go against the trend!

Oooh, Kaitie, I love this idea! I'm going to start. I've also asked my mom and grandma , if they can't think of something to give me for Christmas, to get me money or gift card so I can get new jeans.

same for me. instantly in the sentence exercise the first thing i wrote was.....fat is easy. woah....i've got a lot of brain work to do. thanks so much for sharing this information!

Hi,

A few posts ago, others were concerned about purchasing clothes with weight loss.

In the Los Angeles area, there is a store "Susie's Deals" which sells $ 5.00 clothing. Everything is $ 5.00. They have some clothes that are junky, but they also have a lot of over-stock items. For example, last week I bought a nice Liz Clairborne turtle neck for 5.00. You have to sort through, but a lot of $ can be saved.

I bought a lot of my "fat" clothes there, thinking I would need them for a short time. It ended up that I needed them long term since I have been heavy for so long.

One thing I have learned is that men's pants fit better on me, I am an apple shape. The other thing I have learned is it is better to have 3 pairs of pants that fit well than 40 that don't look good.

Good luck on your weight loss!

interesting to view weight loss from the psychological aspects than the usual physical issues.