well my neighbor had this new group starting at her church last night. signed up and was all psyched to have help losing these last 20+ pounds. when i first came in they told me i didnt look like i had 20 pounds to lose and why was i there? then i mentioned that i'm going away next month for a week and they said thats not ok because im not allowed to miss any of these "classes". i was so mad goin out to my car and thinking who the hell do they think they are? and in a church no less!

That's not right. If it is a support group then they should let in anyone who wants to join in. I wouldn't even worry about, they obviously must have other issues. I mean were they all heavier than you or something? Just seems very mean. I know I don't speak for everyone, but I love hearing your input. I don't think anyone would tell you to go away here. Cheer up

Your kidding I can’t believe anyone would do this… thank god you found out how bad this group can be……. people as negative as this can really bring you down. It goes to show they are not educated in what they are trying to do and that can be dangerous. You’re better off as far away from these people as you can get.

Stuff like that really frustrates me. Some people are so dense, and forget that we all start at different places and have different goals. I'm very sorry that you had a bad experience, and hope you can find another place besides here to find support!

Meshellibel and rosered are right... if they treated you like that the first night, it's not even worth it to try to go there... it could be a really negative experience.

STupid people suck... I dont understand why people have to be a specific size to want to better themselves. I have found that so many people who are truly obese almost get threatened or annoyed by people who dont have so much to lose..almost like your mocking them. I personally have alot to lose..but i would never discourage or be threatened...I would be encouraged & want to encourage you. You can certainly find a better support group than that. Unreal... Any kind of health, nutrition, exercise whatever..should be supported and applauded especially in a world where so many people look like the couch they have been sitting on....and even if they dont, they have the nutritional intelligence of a vending machine. Good for you for realizing you deserve more respect than that!

Not to be rude or anything but something about this topic struck me as funny lol. Your in a better group already lol.

"Stupid people suck"........frickin hilarious

that really is not cool at all so many people want to lose weight just because its not 60 or 100bls doesnt mean its not worth losing the weight i have to lose 40bls i might not look like i do but im overweight for my bmi i could lose around 11bls to not be classed as overweight but its still to high for my bmi i dont care what people im going to lose it dont let them put you off losing weight is not just a visual thing you are looking out for your overall health and wellbeing

you all are right i think. when i was walking out of there last month i was thinking to myself "to hell with them anyway, i lost 40 already without them. surely i can lose 20 more by myself!"

so they said as i was leaving they would call me when the next class started (its run by a nutritionist who specializes in weight loss). i was like well i probably wont need it by then since you cant get in unless you have 20 or more to lose! besides i dont think my pride would let me walk back in there to join even if they did call me. personally, i think its because im not a member of their stupid church because my neighbor who invited me to join that class in the first place is not overweight (does not have 20 lbs to lose) but she is the pastor's daughter in law.

That kind of behavior gives Christians a bad name....grrrrr.
Just affirms in my mind that clubs like that need to be separate from church!
They apparently havent been taught how to treat one another in grace.
So sorry for you....well there are always going to be people like that Christian or not.....hope you are finding more support here.
"Be Strong and Take Heart, All You Who Hope in The LORD." Psalm 31:24

well, I am sorry you experianced that WW. And you did loose a ton on your own, you can do this next 20 pds. The last stretch is hard, I know. And I know christians should be held at a higher standard, but remember, they are just people.

Unfortunately ignorance knows no bounds..and it is most likely someone elses hang ups making them act like a donkey than anything to do w/ you. They were probably jealous that you only had that much to lose. Its unfortunate that anyone gets hung up on the fact this was a church group.... just because people go to church doesnt mean they are actually christians ..or try to treat people as Christ would have us. That is when people talking the talk & walking the walk shows more than a label anyday!

well put..thank you

You might tell your neighbor (the pastor's daughter-in-law) that you didn't feel welcome at the group. I'm sure the pastor would like to know.

That is so dumb! You are always welcome here. Is there another group that is close that you can join? If not, all of us here are in a group on this forum. We can do this, together.

We have an aerobics instructor that just moved into our area and started going to our church. Someone asked her if she would teach a class as an activity to show people how to take care of their health. In front of the people she said she would not teach the class because people don't control what they put in their mouths. I didn't know that a person had to be in shape and at the correct weight BEFORE learning how to exercise! I don't even want to be around her now because I'm the only one there who is really fat. Some of the other women have a little extra weight but not like me.