Coming from a guys perspective - any husband or boyfriend who is not supportive of his wifes/girlfriends efforts to diet and look better is very insecure. Remember that misery loves company. DONT STAND FOR IT! Get them involved. My wife has never been committed to exercise. I have tried to get her to start for years. Recently we had the opportunity to work out together at the center where my son is in preschool. Well it was time for me to put up or shut up. So, I quit the hardcore gym that I went to, and joined the gym at the center with my wife. Now we are working out together and it has been really nice. Please do not ever stand for someone getting in the way of your goals. If they ignore you or try to sabotage you it is disrespectful.

Thanks! I do know this...He has a terrible self esteem..and i know thats where this stems. I have encouraged him and told him that I would come over there to walk w/ him during his break from work or after work..whatever..he just wont commit and then I end up standing there w/ 2 kids waiting.. Unfortunately right now its a tough time in both our lives w/ 1 child thats a year old and one thats 8... and also, he doesnt like getting up in the morning early and im up at dawn & I walk for 45 min to an hr. I think he is coming around as the other day he told me how great i was doing and how he wished he could do the same. I told him that I appreciated his encouragement. I worry about him also..he is about 30 lbs overweight ..not as bad as I am..but his dad had a heartattack at 30..& his uncles both in their 30s... very scary

BodyelasticBK, you set the bar for all husbands/boyfriends
and i agree w/ you if husbands/boyfriends don't like it then they should do something about it.It does all stem from insecurities though and that's just something they have to deal with. i've found something that i actually enjoy doing and i'm not going to stop for anyone as far as involvement goes, doubt thats gonna happen(unless i really do get bigger muscles than him lol)


K.
Considering family history your husband should look into some form of cardio, it runs in my family also so i understand your concerns, it's never too late to start

This is a great thread really enjoyed reading it...Ive started throwing away the reeses my hubby brings almost everyday! I tell him stop he brings it anyway.So I trash em...My husband is fit and seems to beleive women should be squishy. I feel like hes telling me if I get all skinny again he wont like it. But I dont like being unhealthy or unhappy. He isnt supportive, sometimes I wish he would get fat so he would know how I feel!

I had the same problem.
I told them i would give them $10 for every kg i lost so they encourage me to exercise and make sure i ate the right foods.
I ended up shelling out $300 before they stopped taking the money and just realized how much better it was with me being slimmer. Im still loosing weight though - husband has lost 10kg now also and the kids are much happier

thats not a bad idea

Sounds like my family and also my coworkers who always try to get me to eat the food at work. I work at Starbucks so we have lots of pastries and such. They are so horrible.

My bf is a dream, support wise. He has said that he is happy whether I lose weight or not -that he doesn't want me to try to lose weight "for him" because he loves me whatever.

If hes got sweets or chocs or something, he sort of reassures me that if I want a little bit I'm welcome, but that he wont offer them to me because he knows I'm trying to be careful. He also listens to me waffle on about gym etc when I know he's bored by a lot of it (I do ramble when I get excited about something!) so yeh overall he couldn't do it better.

My family are pretty supportive and try their best too -as for friends, only a select few know I'm trying to lose weight, as I've chosen to keep it quiet.

I've got friends who are...a double sided coin, if you know what I mean. One day they're telling me I look great, the next they're telling me I need to eat- and usually shoving unhealthy things in my face. Maybe you should ask your husband to go jogging with you? That way you get to spend time together and you're both doing something healthy for yourselves and are being supportive of each other!