I want to be a unicorn

#21
Sticking to your planned foods when you´re at home and doing something that´s not the most exciting activity in the world is HARD. Especially if what you´re doing is stressing you out a bit as well. Maybe you can plan regular breaks and small rewards for yourself after every little chunk of work you get done to make it easier? Nuts are very high-calorie but at least you got those calories from something healthy that´ll feed your brain. Silver lining and all.
 
#22
I am constantly confronted with my beliefs about how much a person my age and height and weight and activity level should eat. It seems that they were false! I mean, that's the 7th day of my awareness and for the first time in my life I really SEE that I eat too much.
It's all very strange.
That's really surprising realisation in that terms that I though that generally people should eat just as much as I do but it's just my body that is strange and I used to get really angry that other people can (seemingly) eat whatever they want and as much as they want and they don't look like me.
There was something that made it impossible for me to see it, some kind of barrier that stopped me from confronting myself.
I used to tell people "I don't eat that much!" while it seems that yes, that was much more than my body needs - although my mind needs to catch up with that.

So today a good day, no sweets! Yay how did it happen?
Also, calorie intake 1700, but good food - hummus with carrots, musli with no sugar, spinach dumplings, salad with turkey and peaches. Oh, okay, small sin - a cappuccino. ;)
 
#24
That's really surprising realisation in that terms that I though that generally people should eat just as much as I do but it's just my body that is strange and I used to get really angry that other people can (seemingly) eat whatever they want and as much as they want and they don't look like me.
Realizing that is great progress. You can do this!
 
#25
I think you've made some really good realizations over the last few days. This is such a learning process and you are doing so well!
 
#26
Thanks for all the words of encouragement. Another day without sweets! (Wow, just wow). And less than 1700kcal. I realised that even small additions count - like frying on more oil than necessary or throwing some cheese in or adding oil for flavour and suddenly my meal is 900kcal. :eek:

Bad day in other areas. Just realised my academic advisor (or whatever the name is for a professor who is suposed to help me write my thesis) made my work harder on purpose. I did research, I sent and colected surveys, came up with some ideas how it all should work, created some statistical models, learnt about them for weeks - and nothing came out of this, no statistical significance - and my advisor wrote "yeah, well, I'm not surprised, that was to be expected". I am confused and angry and about to cry.

Ugh.
 

cate

Never gives up
#27
:grouphug:hon
Maybe he (she?) can give you some constructive advice on where you went wrong, rather than saying something unhelpful. Write down how you are feeling right now & how you think your advisor could help you better next time & let him/her know that you need better guidance. There are some people in this world that think it's better to learn the hard way, rather than encouraging you in a kind way & steering you in the right direction. If you don't get a good response is it possible to get a new mentor?
Don't take this to heart unicorn. Kudos to you for doing so well with changing your life for the better. This will become another learning curve & you will get stronger & stronger. You deserve to have support & you should get it.
Another hug for good measure :grouphug: xo Cate
 
#28
Yay thanks. I feel there's nothing I can do because I need to finish this in a month and I felt good about my project and suddenly something like this comes up. I need to cool down probably xD
I've worked with her for some years so I am not very optimistic about receiving constructive advice, but I'll try. Thank you.
 
#29
Today I was just sad and tired because of this situation. I don't have a solution for now. Maybe tonight something will come to me.

My diet is ok, I think. Well, I bought myself halvah so maybe I should have restrained myself but that's the kick - I felt that if I decided I shouldn't eat it, I wouldn't. But thanks to the advice I got from here I realised that this is really my decision. A treat ('cause I had an extremally crappy day). Before, I had to FIGHT with myself not to buy sweets but in the last weeks it was a decision. And in the last week I decided not to buy chocolate or sth else and I could do this. Amazing feeling - having control over my urges.


Calorie count 1800, and some rubbish salad because I didn't have time to eat at home, and of course the dessert. But I reduced the amount of cheese on my casserole and didn't use so much oil so now I know it doesn't taste worse than before and I'll do it this way from now on. And I walked 12,5k steps so yay.
 

cate

Never gives up
#30
Eating mindfully of something that you really like & eating it in moderation is part of a normal, healthy lifestyle. It is your decision. Well done on not going overboard & making better decisions for yourself. You are doing well unicorn :)
 
#31
Before, I had to FIGHT with myself not to buy sweets but in the last weeks it was a decision. And in the last week I decided not to buy chocolate or sth else and I could do this.
That´s great! And that´s the thing that´ll keep your eating healthier in the long run.
I reduced the amount of cheese on my casserole and didn't use so much oil so now I know it doesn't taste worse than before and I'll do it this way from now on.
I often like savory foods more with reduced fat. You´re making so many sustainable changes, chapeau!
 
#32
that was NOT a good day, I don't even want to know how many calories I ate but definitely more than 2k. Ehh. I'm trying not to get discouraged. I drank some wine and my self control flew out of the window xD

I lost 5lbs in the last week.
 
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